Archive for November, 2010

A few words on relationships

Posted in Opinions and Articles with tags , , , on November 28, 2010 by ladyadumalevil

Today I’m a little moodier than usual and I stumbled upon a song which seems to fit with my state of mind. I was thinking of relationships, how they begin, how they end and so on. Are D/s relationships or relationships which involve BDSM elements the same? Well, of course they are, at least very similar. They still involve people. Even if some of us might like them more impersonal, a feeling of mutual sympathy and respect still exists. Moreover, not few are the cases when actual love occurred between the partners, who have lived happily ever after.

The steps we take before getting involved with a person are quite the same: we meet, we find out if we have common interests, likes, dislikes. We talk, talk some more, go out again and then maybe we’ll get to the “behind closed doors part”. Then we all go on with our daily lives, but we still talk with our partner and see each other from time to time (or maybe daily, whatever, this storyline is just for fun, it is easily changeable), then suddenly everybody knows we’ve left the  “single” category.  In unfortunate cases, a rapture appears and the two break up; hearts break and wounds heal in time or maybe the the two actually remain friends. Sounds very vanilla up to now, right?

Well, maybe not so vanilla somewhere in-between. As a Dominant or a submissive person, we choose the types of relationships we would like to have with others. We might want long-term relationships or only occasional sessions; we might want to have a typical relationship besides the BDSM one with the same person, or we might just want to stick to the D/s one, not wanting to involve with a partner in a multi-level relationship.  Some choose a D/s relationship as a “parallel life”, when they know that they cannot have this with their spouse, but they know their spouse is the perfect partner from all other points of view.  It’s not easy deciding what you want from life in general, but add BDSM to it and everything just gets more messed up.

From my point of view, the best way to go is to have a long-term BDSM relationship with your partner. Maybe you discovered it together and experimented all kind of things, maybe you met in the scene and decided you were a match, or maybe you wanted it and presented the lifestyle to your partner, “converting” him or her to the ever-moving world of BDSM.  Some might not agree with me, but a relationship needs trust and communication, and these two don’t come in easily. It takes time to get to trust one another and to learn how to tell each other about your desires, fantasies etc. Not to mention that, in time, non-verbal communication occurs and you tend to know what feels good, what doesn’t, what your partner wants and so on without him or her even telling you.  This applies to both D/s relationships (when the partners only meet with this purpose in mind), TPEs and people who have a “BDSM-bedroom” relationship (my own definition for people who are like a vanilla couple all the time and they have a D/s relationship only in the intimacy of their bedroom). So, long-run in the key, at least to my mind!

Cronica de concert: ORE – Songs 4 Hate and Devotion

Posted in Music, Opinions and Articles with tags , , , , , , , , on November 15, 2010 by ladyadumalevil

Acest articol si pozele atasate nu imi apartin. El a fost scris de Doamna A., o buna prietena, a carei permisiune o am pentru publicare. Cronica este subiectiva, continand exclusiv parerea autoarei. De ce am rugat-o pe Doamna A., participanta la concert, sa redea in scris atmosfera spectacolului? Pe langa evidentele conexiuni ale versurilor trupei cu fenomenul BDSM, spectacolul din Bucuresti a adus pe scena si un duo de exceptie pentru un show de Japanese suspension bondage,  ceva ce nu vezi zilnic intr-o tara care nu accepta manifestarile BDSM si considera ca orice este diferit, este neaparat si “anormal”.

Toate drepturile sunt rezervate, iar orice preluare a  articolului sau a pozelor fara permisiune este interzisa.

Tempted by lust and the promise of sin

In data de  5 noiembrie 2010, clubul nou-aparut in Bucuresti, Kulturhaus, a gazduit un concert de exceptie al trupei suedeze Ordo Rosarius Equilibrio, in cadrul evenimentului “Experimental Friday II”, organizat de DonisArt, concert de lansare al noului album “Songs 4 Hate and Devotion”.

Desi anuntat pentru ora 20:00, concertul in sine a inceput in jurul orei 21:00, lucru care nu inceteaza sa ma deranjeze in cadrul evenimentelor organizate in Romania, dar incerc sa nu ma mai plang de acest lucru. Desi clubul este incapator, bine pozitionat si accesibil, publicul concertului nu a fost numeros. Parerea mea este ca spectacolul nu a fost suficient promovat, desi trupa, care activeaza de 17 ani, este mai mult decat capabila sa stranga un numar ridicat de spectatori; astfel, doar cunoscatorii si fanii care urmaresc constant activitatea formatiei au semnat condica de prezenta.

Pe langa toate acestea, pot spune sincer ca a fost unul dintre cele mai bune concerte pe care le-am vazut recent. Desi formatia m-a impresionat si anul trecut in cadrul festivalului Dark Bombastic Evening, acolo au fost atat de multe trupe de valoare (ORE, Triarii, Spiritual Front, Rome etc) incat nu prea mai stiai a carei reprezentatie sa o consideri cea mai buna. Avand in vedere acestea, un concert in care ORE sa fie trupa principala (si unica, de altfel) mi-a lasat o impresie durabila si mult mai puternica.

Publicul s-a dovedit a fi foarte energic si i-a intampinat pe suedezi  cu aplauze puternice. Au inceput cu “The Love and Defiance of Being Alive” (ONANI, 2008), trecand mai apoi prin melodii noi precum “In My Little Black Dress”, “Do Angels Never Cry, And Heave Never Fall?”, “IMBECILE, My Idiot Lover”,“A Song 4 Hate and Devotion”, “A World Not So Beautiful”, neuitand insa si de cele de pe albumele mai vechi:  “[Mercury Rising] Seduced By The Kisses Of Cinnabar Sweet” , “Which Word Confines The Truth? Dancing For Love And War”, “I am the SUN (Anus Dei)”, “Sheep For a Lifetime or Lion for A Day”, “Singing for the Angel of the East”, “Mary Dances In The Shadow – The Holiest Of Harlots”, “Remember Depravity and the Orgies of Rome”.

Pe tot parcursul reprezentatiei, pe un ecran aflat in spatele formatiei au fost proiectate imagini fetish si SM, de la scene de body worship, foot fetish pana la whipping si caning, atat din cadrul FemDom, cat si din MaleDom.

La finalul melodiei “Confessions of a Sinflower“, trupa a iesit de pe scena anuntand finalul concertului, iar publicul a inceput sa scandeze numele formatiei. Tomas si ORE s-au intors insotiti de maestrul Zamil si partenera sa, un duo german care a demonstrat tehnici de legare a adversarului din Kinbaku, arta martiala japoneza, si supendarea acestuia, totul fiind transpus in erotismul practicilor de bondage, des intalnite sub diverse forme (de la simple legaturi de imobilizare pana la arta Shibari) in BDSM.  Publicul a privit cu mare atentie demonstratia, atat de atent incat Tomas a comentat amuzat la finalul uneia din melodii pe seama uimirii publicului, care a uitat chiar si sa aplaude.

Au urmat melodii cunoscute ale trupei, fara de care un concert ORE nu poate fi considerat complet, precum “Three is an Orgy, Four is Forever”, “Hell is Where the Heart Is” si “In High Heels Through Nights Of Broken Glass” , timp in care Zamil si-a legat si suspendat partenera in diverse pozitii, folosind tehnici de legare si noduri variate.

La sfarsit, trupa s-a retras de pe scena in aplauze furtunoase, iar apoi cei doi germani au fost si ei aclamati pentru prestatie.

In concluzie, concertul de lansare al noului album Ordo Rosarius Equilibrio, “Songs 4 Hate and Devotion“, a fost unul reusit, punctele esentiale fiind placut evidentiate prin imaginile proiectate in spatele trupei, iar elementul surpriza (pentru unii participanti), demonstatia de bondage a celor doi germani, reprezentanti ai Kinbaku Art, a facut totul mult mai incitant si a creat o atmosfera potrivita unei petreceri BDSM, desi multi dintre cei aflati acolo nu cunosc aceasta parte a muzicii trupei.


Si pentru ca nu se poate sa nu inchei in stilul meu traditional, va recomand sa urmariti cel mai recent videoclip Ordo Rosarius Equilibrio, “IMBECILE, My Idiot Lover”. Pentru toti cei pasionati ceea ce se afla in spatele muzicii si al imaginilor.